How to connect with your partner without words
When was the last time you paused, took a few deep, restorative breaths, and focused on the movement of your lungs, or belly, or your throat?
For many of us, it's been a while - so let's try this practice together.
Find the natural rhythm of your breath and pull your attention onto the feeling of the air flowing into your body, and out.
With every inhale, envision cleansing, revitalizing energy entering your mouth and nose.
With every exhale, allow any stress, worry, and tension to melt away.
Let's take three more breaths together...
Thank yourself for taking the time to attend to yourself.
Now, take a moment to notice: how does your body feel? How does your mind feel?
Maybe relaxed? In the moment? In-sync?
Mindfulness practices like this are extremely powerful in reconnecting with ourselves, reconnecting with the universal energy, and creating deep physiological synchronicity.
Neurobiological research shows that being attentive to ourselves and creating a space where we feel calm, at ease, and secure, turns our higher cortical functions on.
Fascinatingly, our heart rhythms and our breath become smoother, more ordered, and our heart rhythm and brain waves sync up - this is known as ‘coherence’.
Our whole body/mind becomes organized and efficient, any erratic patterns become regulated, just by breathing with a focus on our state.
In Ayurveda, the channel system of the mind goes everywhere in the body, but is rooted in the heart. 5,000 years ago, Ayurveda recognized the intricate connection between the mind and the heart.
explores the Ayurvedic perspective on the connection between our hearts and minds.
Through a relational lense, the more we cultivate this togetherness within ourselves, the more bandwidth we have to be open and responsive to our partner, and the more capacity we have to accurately perceive another.
Beyond this, we actually experience something called 'resonance', which is when two people resonate and entrain with each other's energetic fields.
Think of this as sort of an unconscious connection between you and your partner.
Similar to the attunement mothers and fathers have with their babies, you have the power to generate energetic rhythms that are in-sync with other heart fields.
Mutual regulation happens, safety happens, creativity happens, presence happens.
If you've tried this practice before, I would love to hear about your experience.